If someone is threatening to share your private images, or you have realized an online relationship was a scam, take a breath. You are not alone, it is not your fault, and this is survivable. Sextortion relies on panic and isolation, so the most important thing you can do is stop, not pay, and get help from people who handle this every week. Spy and Monitor provides calm, confidential support, preserves your evidence, and works to shut the threat down. This page tells you exactly what to do right now and how we help.
Sextortion: what to do in the next 10 minutes
- Do not pay. Paying almost never stops the threats. It marks you as someone who pays, and the demands usually continue and increase.
- Do not delete anything. The messages, profile, and payment demands are evidence you will need. Screenshot everything.
- Stop replying, but do not block or delete the account yet, so it can be documented. Silence removes the blackmailer's momentum.
- Lock down your accounts. Make your social profiles private and tighten who can see your friends and followers, which is who they threaten to contact.
- Reach out. We help you preserve evidence, secure your accounts, and prepare takedowns before anything spreads, and we use image hashing so any leaked content can be blocked across platforms.
Why paying makes it worse
Blackmailers are running a business, and a payment is proof the business works. Most people who pay are asked for more, often immediately. Removing the leverage, by securing your accounts, preparing rapid takedown, and refusing to engage, is what actually ends it. We have seen this pattern many times, and the cases that resolve fastest are the ones where the victim stopped paying and let a coordinated response take over.
Romance and dating scams
Pig-butchering and romance scams are engineered to feel completely real and to move slowly over weeks so that, by the time money or private content is involved, your guard is down. If you have sent money or shared images with someone you met online, you are far from the only one, and there are concrete next steps. We help you assess the situation calmly, preserve the evidence, pursue fund recovery through our scam and crypto recovery team where possible, and remove any content that was shared.
Confidential and judgment-free
Every case is handled with complete discretion. We have helped many people through exactly this, and our focus is entirely on protecting you and stopping the harm, never on how it happened. You will be treated with respect from the first message.
A coordinated response
Sextortion usually touches several problems at once, which is why we run them together. We combine content takedown and NCII removal to remove and block any leaked material, account recovery to secure compromised accounts, and scam recovery if money was sent. We also help you report to the right authorities, who take these crimes seriously.